| "There are times in my life when I have been medicine for some and poison for others. I used to think I was a victim of my story until I realized the truth; that I am the creator of my story. I choose what type of person I will be and what type of impact I leave on others. I will never choose the destructive path of self and outward victimization again" ~Steve Maraboli. As a survivor of date rape and domestic violence I am very familiar with making the choice to remain a victim or become a victor. The question 'will I be a victim or victor?' determines the outcome of daily life for survivors of abuse. For some merely moving forward and forgiving is a victory. Many people experience molestation, abuse, injustice, hatred, neglect and hardships everyday but something in them allows them to survive and remain optimistic. I have noticed that the primary difference between victims and victors is their response/outlook. We can not always control what other people do to us but we can control our response. We can choose to allow negative circumstances to be a stumbling block or stepping stone, it is all in our perception. We can use our hurt to help heal others or use it to build walls that keep everyone out. The choice is ours. Everyday I choose to be a victor and help other victims through encouragement or support. |
LET'S REMEMBER;
Anyone that has been victimized in any way can be victorious over the violation. Here is an exert about victims and victors. "Victors take responsibility when things go wrong – victims look for someone else to blame. Victors look ahead with optimism and hope – victims see the future as a dark and scary place. Victors see talented people as potential team-mates – victims see them as potential threats. Victors are aware of their need to continue to develop and grow – victims think that life would be better if only everyone else would develop and grow. Victors see challenges as an opportunity to overcome adversity – victims see them as more evidence that the universe is conspiring against them.Victors plan for the future – victims worry about it. Victors paddle their boat where they want it to go – victims go wherever the currents take them. Victors understand that their life is a self-fulfilling prophecy – victims don’t know what that means, but their life becomes one anyway. Victors regularly do the hard things – victims follow the path of least resistance". Remember the choice is always yours to be better th.
Anyone that has been victimized in any way can be victorious over the violation. Here is an exert about victims and victors. "Victors take responsibility when things go wrong – victims look for someone else to blame. Victors look ahead with optimism and hope – victims see the future as a dark and scary place. Victors see talented people as potential team-mates – victims see them as potential threats. Victors are aware of their need to continue to develop and grow – victims think that life would be better if only everyone else would develop and grow. Victors see challenges as an opportunity to overcome adversity – victims see them as more evidence that the universe is conspiring against them.Victors plan for the future – victims worry about it. Victors paddle their boat where they want it to go – victims go wherever the currents take them. Victors understand that their life is a self-fulfilling prophecy – victims don’t know what that means, but their life becomes one anyway. Victors regularly do the hard things – victims follow the path of least resistance". Remember the choice is always yours to be better th.
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